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| Setting up a Muslim home (I) |
Allah says:
“My Lord! Forgive me and my parents and him who whom enters my house believing, and believing men and believing women; and do not increase the unjust in aught but destruction!”[Nuh: 28]
home, which means to make it look friendly and lived-in and, really, personal.
In general, a house is a permanent physical structure, while a home is a place to live.
Home is also used figuratively. They say home is where the heart is. Though you might live in a house, using home adds some emotional attachment to the place.
you use “home” when you want to mention your family which brings you a warm feeling or happiness to be in.
A house has no emotion attached, though it can be old and broken or new and perfect.
A home can be a happy place or a sad place, depending on the situation in your life.
The term home is more emotional than a description of real estate.
Generally, yes, house is the structure whereas home has an affective aspect. You can ‘feel at home’ or ‘not feel at home’ in a house. House is also a verb. You can be housed or re-housed.
A house is a building. A home is a place. – Preston Fitzgerald
Home has a much more personal meaning. One could say “New York is my home”, which implies they feel comfortable everywhere in New York. It also implies that the speaker spends most or all of their time there; My office is my home implies both I spend much of my time in my office as well asI am comfortable in my office. This is exemplified by the phrase Home is where the heart is.
House, on the other hand, is a literal. It is grammatically identical to apartment, condominium, and other nouns for a place of living.
Differences in usage include I will go home versus I will go house, in which go home is an expression meaning to return home. Saying I will go to my house is more natural than I will go to my home because one’s house is a literal, defined place, but in contrast home is more nebulous.
1. down vote A house is a permanent structure built for people to live in. There are a number of other related meanings, but that’s the primary one.
A person’s home is the place where they normally live in. (Again, several related meanings also exist.) As it happens, a lot of people live in houses, so often a person’s home will be their house. It could be something else, though, such as an apartment, a trailer, a boat, a tent or even a cardboard box under a bridge. None of those would normally be called a house in English.
The word “home” is almost always used as an attribute of a specific person (or of a group of people living together): “my home”, “your home”, “their home”. It is possible to use the word “home” without specifying who it belongs to (as in “Hundreds of homes were destroyed by the hurricane.”), but even then, it carries the connotation that somebody lives in the place so described. An empty, abandoned house would not normally be called a home.
The word “home” can also more generally refer to places larger than a single building. For example, I could describe the town or the country I live in (or where I feel I belong, even if I’m temporarily living somewhere else) as my home. The word “home” carries a very strong emotional connotation, a sense of a personal connection with a place, whereas “house” is mostly emotionally neutral.
2. Indeed, a desire to avoid that sense of emotional significance, in situations where it might be awkward and unwanted, may be one reason for the common substitution of “house” (or more generally “place”) for “home” in colloquial use, as in “Let’s go to my house and watch TV.” Inviting someone to your house just feels a lot less emotionally significant than inviting them to your home.
Summary
1) The dearest wish of all young men and women.
2) The great blessing of a happy home.
3) The husband and wife are the foundation of a happy home.
4) The Prophetic household is the example for all others.
5) A description of the homes of the first generation of Muslims.
6) The importance of raising children according to Islaam.
7) Cultivation by means of being an example.
8) The evils which result from the absence of the Muslim home.
9) The Muslim home submits fully to the commands of Allaah.
10) The Muslim home is one of remembrance and servitude to Allaah.
11) The Muslim home is one of advice and cooperation.
12) The importance of knowledge and actions to the Muslim home.
13) Chastity is a vital characteristic of the Muslim home.
14) Keeping the secrets and hiding the differences within the Muslim home.
15) The relation between the Muslim home and the wider community.
16) Cooperation in accomplishing housework.
17) How to achieve the ultimate happiness in this life and the next.
Your homes are fortresses which protect this religion; you must protect the guarding posts that you are standing upon so that your enemies do not penetrate from your side, for you are the guards of this fortress. The husband is the one who has the upper hand and guardianship in this home and obeying him is mandatory. Ibn ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “All of you are guardians and all of you will be questioned (by Allaah) about your responsibilities …A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and she will be questioned By Allaah) about her responsibilities (i.e., about her children, property, duties etc.)…” (Bukhaari & Muslim).
The Prophet’s homes set the example for all homes; they were homes in which you would find neither luxury nor extravagance; they were homes in which the remembrance of Allaah was always heard. The ascetic way of life and the contentment that this leads to was clearly found in these homes. Indeed the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam gave his wives a free choice, to choose this life and all its beauties or Allaah, His Messenger and the Hereafter. In this regard Allaah says that which translates as: “O Prophet! Say to your wives. ‘If you should desire he worldly life and its adornment, then come, I will provide for you and give you a gracious release. But if you should desire Allaah and His Messenger and the home of the Hereafter – then indeed, Allaah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward’”. (Al-Ahzaab: 28-29). All his wives, may Allaah be pleased with them, chose Allaah, His Messenger and the Hereafter, as was mentioned in the books of Imaam Bukhaari & Muslim.
The Muslim homes which the first generation of Muslims established were founded on Islaam, both in theory and action, and their lives were illuminated by the light of belief. They learnt their manners from the Qur’aan, which produced unique examples of people, and this was therefore the best era in history. The Muslim homes during that era produced heroes, dedicated worshippers, sincere leaders, dutiful children and dedicated women. This is exactly how a Muslim home will be when it is built on the foundation of faith, guidance and the light of the Qur’aan.
The pure and righteous Muslim home is a protection for ones innate natural disposition from going astray or becoming corrupted. Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “Every new baby is born with the innate natural disposition (i.e., Islaam) and then it is the parents who cause him to become a Jew, a Christian or a Magian.” (Bukhaari & Muslim). Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said commenting upon this Hadeeth: “Most corruption of children happens as a result of the father’s negligence and his abandonment of the teaching of obligatory acts in the religion as well as the Sunnah. So they wasted their children when they were young, which resulted in the fact that they were of no benefit to them, or even themselves, during the old age (of the parents).”
How beautiful it would if the head of the home were to gather his children and recite some verses of the Qur’aan with them, and narrate some stories of the Prophets, and thereby instil noble manners in his children.
The first priority of the Muslim home must be to cultivate its children Islamically and produce a righteous generation. This cultivation and advice will have no effect if it is not backed up by the parents setting a practical example in terms of worship, manners, words, deeds and appearance, Allaah says that which translates as: “And those who say: ‘Our Lord! Grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us a leader [i.e., example] for the righteous.” (Al-Furqaan: 74). Also, consider the Du’aa’ of ProphetIbraaheem, peace be upon him, when he said that which translates as: “My Lord! Make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendents. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.” (Ibraaheem: 40). Allaah also says that which translates as: “And enjoin prayer upon your family [and people] and be steadfast therein. We ask you not for provision; We provide for you, and the [best] outcome is for [those of] righteousness.” (Taa Haa: 132).
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